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Although I am aware of the positive impact of disconnect in this relationship, it's been quite a while now, and we need to reconnect!

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(((sister))) Have you told him this yet? Does he know what you want right now? What if you just said to him, "I am missing you and need to reconnect. Can we do that today?" Would he try to give you what you wanted and connect? Or would he withhold? Or is it not that easy for you two to control the connection? In my last session with my T (the one when I was angry with him), the first thing I said to him was, "I need you to be my therapist today and not my divorce coach. Sometimes I don't know who you are when I come here. Can you just be my therapist today?" Wow, did that ever perk his ears up. He got the message loud and clear and restated it just to make sure. I was able to get what I needed from him, because I told him.

sister, I thought you had written earlier that you and your T connected really well the first time you saw him after your separation. What happened? How many times have you seen him since his return?

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PS I just had a thought. I think I'm pushing him away.

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Do you think you are punishing him for leaving you alone for so long? I've heard this is classic client behavior when therapists return from their vacations.

Good luck.