Star, how soon is your bf leaving? I have always usually been able to schedule an apointment quite quickly. I asked my b.f. of only 3 months to come to the gyno with me he wasn't thrilled to go but he said that he was happy that he was able to make me happy (he's now my fiance!). Any guy that you are sexually active with should be willing to go to the gyno with you other wise in my opinion you should find someone else. The dr even gave us ideas how to make sex less painful for me and do it in a fun way. Maven, I have the same problem, the exam does hurt me (not meant to scare you). The whole actual pelvic exam is probably LESS than 5 minues although it feels more like 15. I always feel so much better afterwards when I get my letter in the mail letting me know I'm clean and healthy so it's worth it! My fiance is great when we go... he knows exactly when to grab my hand, I don't even have to reach out anymore! Plus the dr is great about making it comfortable for BOTH of us. I encourage you to go! I hope what I've said hasn't discouraged you.