By making the changes you've described it shows you do have good judgement.


So use that to identify the qualities you seek in a woman, and pursue this type of woman.


As divine said, desperation can lead us to the wrong people, but even the wrong people don't have the power to destroy our lives.


I've been with two wrong persons (one reallllly wrong one out of immaturity not desperation), and they were great lessons in what I am not willing to put up with.


You don't sound desperate to me, your life seems otherwise on track.


Don't allow fear to hold you back from getting what you want, trust yourself to make good choices, and give yourself some credit.


You clearly are more competent than you give yourself credit for.