Wow - some of these really shock me! It's never ok for a T to touch a client without permission. They might say "can I give you a hug" and you feel obligated to say yes, but without any mention of it first?

As for prying into questions like the mention of CSA or sex with the boyfriend, I think it's fair for them to ask once, but if you're not answering them, then they should know to back off! Especially in the first month or two of sessions. IMO.

Sorry so many of you have gone through these experiences. I've never had this happen - at least as much as I can remember. My current counselor gives me sooo much leeway when it comes to anything I want to avoid.