I agree with what others have said about a T having to know about a boundary in order to violate it. I mean, I'd expect some basic level of tact, here, but other people can't be expected to just intuit what may be very personalized boundaries 100% of the time.

I've been thinking about it, and the only weird boundary things I've run up against have been (what seemed at the time) out-of-the-blue phone calls to check up and see if I wanted an appointment. Turns out they were agreed upon before hand, but my T sucks at getting back in a timely way and so by the time he called I'd completely forgotten he'd said he would.

It's strange, because you'd think it would be sort of nice to get a pro-active phone call, have your T contact you for once, but I found it to be an odd intrusion on the rest of my life to just get a random phone call I wasn't expecting. There you are, elbow deep in manure for the garden, and you get this call from a private number. You answer, expecting to tell some unsolicited sales person that, no, you don't want to go on a fabulous Caribbean getaway so kindly **** off, and it's your bloody therapist who answers. Kind of like getting whacked over the head by those personal problems you normally compartmentalize.