I'm sorry you're hurting so much


I don't have much to offer, but I may have some insight that could be helpful in future.


Lies, albeit tiny white ones, can be a deal breaker for obvious reasons, but I want to let you in on why it would be for me as a single mother in particular...


As a mother, I want my child to be able to depend on the man in my life, she must be able to take him at his word, be able to trust him, his word must be his bond.


This also makes him a good role model for her.


I know if my child were to catch my bf out in continuous fibs, she'd lose faith in him, lose trust in him, realize she can't depend on him for a simple truth, and ultimately lose her respect for him.


So even if I as a person can overlook pathological white lies, I definitely would not expect my child to, and would absolutely protect her from the repetitive disappointment they bring.


If this is truly something you struggle with, I suggest exploring why lies are easier than honesty, and then take it from there.