Yes, sister, I believe the therapist does have to step up to the plate. (((hugs)))

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And another thing, I'm not going to try and fix it. It just is.

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This is a very strong statement, and reminds me of what adolescents say to their parents when differentiating. I am also reminded of what I wrote upthread, about Winnicott, and how in the good enough mother/therapist, there are disconnections with the child/client 1/3 of the time that do not need to be repaired (in order to be "good enough"). It sounds like you are saying that this is one of those times of disconnect and it is one of those times that are not going to be repaired. And it's not the end of the earth! Good for you.