I'm really depressed now and devastated since my friend R and his g.f K ditched me at the last bar that we went to last night after some stupid argument. To make a long story short, he texted me at the last minute to invite me to hang out with him & his g.f at this restaurant nearby. By the time I got it, they left, but then he asked me to meet them at a nearby beach town.

I almost declined, but since I haven't seen him in over 4 years, I accepted his invite. His dad died a few months ago. He never got along with him since he was horrible. He had Alzheimer's so him and his g.f were stuck taking care of him for 5 years, so they could never go out together w/o him around.

He had to sell one of his cars to pay for the funeral. And I found out that he has a ton of other bills such as a fire bill, and he can't get some of his own money out of his savings now, and he has health insurance bills, and a ton of other bills to pay and he's not working for now. Well, when we met, things were fine, and I hit it off with his g.f almost right away as she's easy to talk to. He decided to get a hotel for us so that we can drink more and be safe.

I'm married of course, he has a g.f, and nothing was going on. They got separate beds. And he's never given me any reason to not trust him in the past. It was a cautionary measure so that we wouldn't be driving home drunk. I especially couldn't take that risk as I have one DUI on my record. I learned from my mistake. Never again.

So because I felt sorry for him, I paid for a somewhat expensive dinner although I don't have much money. He then told his g.f that I'm lucky since my husband gives me money for Xmas, and he had nothing, so she got nothing. He then said that I have it good event though we are having serious financial issues with owing the IRS money and being behind on our mortgage. He then bugged me to tell his g.f about some secret that I told him about my marriage.

The first red flag that I shouldn't have ignored was when he got upset with me after I interrupted him in a game of pool. This woman rubbed her body and her boobs on my back when they were next to me. I don't know if they saw that or not. I was so shocked that I almost knocked my drink over. I didn't say anything. She backed off after I leaned away from her. I then told him about what happened, and he was acting like it was no big deal.

I told him that I felt awkward and uncomfortable so we all left after that. He said that I should take it as a compliment and we had our first real fight in 6 years. WTH? His g.f said nothing as she didn't want to get involved. I told him to drop it and that I'm sorry to have ruined his fun. He wouldn't let things go until a few minutes later. Then he brought that subject up again later as we were walking to another bar. Again I told him to drop it.

I felt that it was very inappropriate to bring up something like that to someone I just met. And I told him to drop the subject. Well, he brought up the same subject later that night and then he made some comment about sex and how I should just have sex, not with him or her, or them, but just sex.

He's always been sexually active, and open, but I'm not. He was not respecting my boundaries or what I told him in confidence at all. I was upset and told him enough and that I don't want to talk about things. Before that he let some Mexican guy who could barely speak English buy us drinks most of the time. This guy seemed interested in me and he wanted to take us out to eat, or me maybe.

We said not thanks, but he followed us outside. He wouldn't go away, so one guy who spoke Spanish who was there spoke to him thank god. He finally stopped following us. My friend was like, I don't want to be rude. I told him that we don't owe him anything and that we should go. He was getting creepy by touching me a bit. Buying someone drinks doesn't entitle anyone to touch you. UGH. Again, he thought that I should be flattered.

WTH? We had all had a lot to drink, so I got upset and I said to him, stop it, I'm done with this. He then told me that I have issues and that I was lashing out at him and stressing HIM out! So I left and cried in the ladies room. Two young ladies asked me what's wrong, and I sort of told them about what happened. They gave me their numbers. One even texted me today to see if things were better.

When I came back out, everyone was gone except for the bartender. OMG, they left me there! In a strange place to where I knew no one and I didn't have enough cash for a hotel. I had enough for a cab, so I took it hack to my car. I had to "sleep" there since I couldn't drive home. I didn't want to risk getting a DUI. I already have one.

I'd go to jail in this state for a second one. The bar to where I was ditched was not the one that we saw the Mexican guy at. It was the last bar we went to where he insisted that I tell his g.f about my secret. WTH? I rolled my eyes when he said that I "like" the attention and the ego stroking. I was NOT looking for attention! I'm married and not a cheater at all!

I don't understand why he'd be so mean and pushy. Anyways, he never did text, call, or email me back yet. I left a v.m last night telling him that I couldn't believe that they'd ditch me there. I had enough money to call a cab and I tried to get a hotel room, but they were booked solid. I didn't have much, and hotels there cost a lot, so I had no choice but to "sleep" in my car in a parking lot.

I just sat there and listened to music with the heater on as it was cold. Some homeless person was nearby. I couldn't drive back home then and risk a DUI or my safety, not to mention that of anyone else. At one point a guy holding a gas canister stood by my car. I got scared and turned the car on right away. I didn't leave though. It did scare him away. I stayed up out of fear. OMG, never again!

How would you feel if a good friend did this to you, and would you ever forgive them for it or not? Why would he act so weird and dismissive of me when he was nothing but kind to me before? I don't get it. I don't think I'll ever hear from him again. Even if I do, I can't ever forgive him for this. If he can do this, then what else will he do if he gets upset with me again? It's a good thing that I won't be going with him, his g.f, and his friends to this huge Halloween event out of state after he pulled a stunt like this on me!