The men aren't innocent, but when one has strong moral character, it doesn't matter when one comes across a man who isn't innocent. We are the ones that have to be strong enough to say NO....which seems to be a word that no one knows any more.

The married person you are sleeping with has NO emotional connection to you, you are just being used for sex by them. No wonder your self-esteem is so low & you are so lonely.

If you want to feel an emotional connection & you want to feel loved....find someone who truly loves you. Sex does not = love unless it's within the marriage bonds.

I was in a 33 year bad marriage that I left 9 years ago. I haven't been with a man since I left & have no desire. I needed to get myself together & figure out who & what I was after all those years of living in a dysfunctional marriage. I am sure that it would benefit you to do the same thing. Learn who you are & what your values are before you ever get anyone else involved in your life or get involved in anyone else's life. Marriages that end in divorce isn't because of one side or the other even in a bad marriage there are issues on both person's part that need resolved even to live a functional single life after marriage. Only then can you really be ready to accept someone else into your life. It's almost like you were so dependent or co-dependent that you have to fill in that person you need to be dependent on with someone else that truly isn't even filling the position because you can't depend on a married man.

Obviously I'm not even touching on the moral issue of what you are doing & wondering why your moral standards are so weak that your desperate desire to have someone in your life totally overshadows them? Just something you might want to wonder to yourself.