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Old Apr 19, 2016, 09:05 PM
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Originally Posted by Cinnamon_Stick View Post
What are some things you wish someone had told you about therapy before you started? I know some of these might be a given but I feel I got way to close to my therapist.

Mine are:
Don't get emotionally involved
At some point the therapist will leave in some way (move, change jobs, retire) so always be ready for it and don't get to close
Get your needs met by other people in your life
Advocate for yourself
Keep the boundaries firm and remember its a paid, professional relationship
I understand why you wish you hadn't gotten so close to your T but I disagree that it is something to avoid. Closeness to others inevitably involves loss. Parents die, partners separate or die, pets die, close friends may die or move away. Parents may even lose a child. Not becoming emotionally close to someone is not the answer. I'm glad I am so close to my T even though there's a risk of loss.

I wish I had known that I would get attached to my T in that way, though, and not be so surprised.

I wish I had known more about therapy instead of thinking you go in and ask questions, and the T answers them.
Thanks for this!
Cinnamon_Stick, Ellahmae