Koala - sometimes we can fake till we make it. That is, imagine how it would be for you if everyone wanted you around. Then, go about your day interacting with people projecting that outwardly. Even when the self talk says otherwise, keep projecting that outwardly. Often, people respond unconsciously to other people's nearly imperceptible cues . . . if you are projecting positivity, you might find others responding likewise. Just a thought.