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Old Apr 20, 2016, 11:53 AM
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Originally Posted by Ellahmae View Post
Maybe that's why hearing T say it affected me so much - because my ex and mother both say the same as you said below. So I don't know how I could hear it 'differently' since it's all I've known. T didn't say any of those phrases just that, "I'm not going to acknowledge the sorry, they don't matter" and all my brain heard was my mom or my ex...?
reminds me of something that happened with my T yesterday. i texted to apologize for letting him down about my relapse. i asked if he can forgive me. he wrote back "there is nothing for me to forgive". i was like ????? what the heck does that mean? Ts can be so confusing and vague.

i get the sense my T is kinda hurt by what happened but doesnt want to admit it, so hes playing like its all good and dandy no matter what i do.

when i read what your T said, i would like to think she meant that there isn't a place for an Im sorry as its just all part of the work and process of what happens in long term therapy
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