I will be honest and say I read to the point where she is asking you to have them for less time with kids and that's when I jumped in. Your kids are a responsibility and for many including me, time with them in a divorced situation is a privilege and a blessing. NO two ways about it in my mind. GF, new wife (as I said in another post) or other Significant other is being completely unrealistic, unfair and selfish to ask you to sacrifice your children for them. For me, being a single father with two boys, any woman that wants time with me has to first accept my kids are priority and leisure solitude is a secondary thing. If they can't accept it, there's the door. Period.


Kids are a responsibility of a parent and they have no choice in the matter, they are not pawns in a game to be moved around a board. In the ideal situation the parents would not have the choice but have the kids 100% of the time - albeit in that same situation would both be there simultaneously but I only point this out to illustrate that our kids would normally not be something we could just toss away for a little romance time with a new gf (or other romantic interest)


Accept her way and I guarantee you that this does not stop. It will be enabling her manipulative and controlling behavior to escalate. Mind you I am NOT saying she is controlling but that she shows this tendency and you can either nip it in the bud, or enable her. Enabling her is what will potentially make her tempted to go further with this behavior. Make a stand in this relationship and it will either make her give up and it will strengthen the relationship in other ways or she will show you whether she is the right woman for you.


Hope this helps.