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Originally Posted by Jan1212
I also do it as well I'm not proud of it at all so why do I keep doing it?it's unfair to the wife/GF. But most of all. It's unfair to me.
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disagree. You choose this option, so unlike the wives of the cheating husbands, it's far more unfair to them. For you all you have to do is say no to such behavior and so have a choice, they do not so that is the reason it's the most unfair to them.
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We are making this one nighters or FWB all about us.. because it gives us the rush and makes us feel wanted. But taking a closer look: we are putting ourselves in a low position ... just to be used. Like candy, and they throw the wrapper away. That's why I feel depressed after sleeping with them. It's really meaningless but it has its perks and all. But deep down we know it's hurting us in the long run.
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One nighters, fwb by nature are all about you, they are always all about the thrill and lack of commitment that comes with such connections.
"....just to be used...." Umm take a step back and look more clearly at your behavior, isn't it a mutual using of another person for sex, quick hook ups? What are YOU doing when you pick someone for one of these one nighters? aren't you using them just as you are calling it out as being used? If you're going to engage in this behavior, accept that this is the case or stop doing it. T
I am concerned with the idea that you make it about how it's hurting you without any regard for the significant others that are unaware of such deceit of their husbands and you. Do you really think that you're the one with the short end of the stick here?
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I am single after my divorce and will remain single until I respect myself in my own way. Do what u feel is right, for you, not anyone else, here or out there in the dating world
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Do what you feel is right, for you, but I think not by sacrificing others. You do not live in a vacuum where no one else, especially the wives of the men, will not be affected by this.