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Originally Posted by PlannedObsolescence
It definitely helps. I appreciate your opinion. I'm not going to change my beliefs in how much I should spend with my kids. There does need to be a time and a place where we can enjoy each other alone without the kids. I just don't want it to come at the expense of them. Don't get me wrong though, if the kids want to stay with mom because they are going to the camp or movies, I have no problem letting them do that. I let the kids do what they want when it comes to where they stay. My son loves being at my house because he is getting older where as my daughter loves to be with her mom because she is a little girl and that's what they like that age. I figure with these type of "guidelines", time for my girlfriend an I will pop up from time to time. I'm not going to force anything.
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Well I know your dilemma. I understand like I said. and I agree, not to sacrifice them for time with romantic interest. Thing is for me, I am still without a gf or anything and I don't know, perhaps it's the best thing for now. I know a gf would take time, money and energy to be with and I just feel at the moment it's not really worth it when my boys need me first and have no choice in the matter what I do. If I were still together with the ex you can bet I would have no choice in the matter there either. I put myself in the place as being father first over anything else because it is what I chose when we decided to have kids at the time we did. Unlike a marriage (not the ideal marriage but what it si today) where you can actually get out of the commitment at some point... kids are a blood tied contract that is my responsibility no matter what.