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Originally Posted by Echos Myron
I think both these terms suggest you are to blame for these love/hate feelings, whereas I think they are quite probably the result of inconsistent therapy, which is not your fault.
I don't want to take away any from your positive experience in therapy this week Mona, but it reminds me very much of the 'healing' sessions I would have with T1. His loving kindness was all the more powerful and potent because it could be taken away, and for me was just another twist on the unhealthy rollercoaster of therapy with him.
I really hope if you continue with this therapist, she can become more consistent in her treatment of you.
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Yes, there has been blame in the past but there was no blame at our last session. She really was open to hearing my anger and was quite honest and genuine in her responses. She admitted to getting frustrated because she wants me to move out of this impasse that I am stuck in. I told her I felt her frustration and sometimes it felt like blame to me. She said she was sorry and that was not her intention. She brought it to supervision and is more aware of our process together, she pushes and I shut down. I said I also felt that and it wasn't helpful to be pushed. She was genuinely sorry and hadn't realised she did this. I said I know it is never her intention to hurt me but that sometimes I get hurt. She asked for me to take a risk and to meet her at the contact boundary and to challenge her back. She likes our contact together and would like to engage with each other in the moment to challenge each other. There is enough support in our relationship up so this. We have been working together for 2.5 years and had many ruptures, we always get through them and I thin new will get through this because she didn't retaliate or get anyway defensive.
I am sorry you had a similar experience with ex t but I feel that this is different Echos
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