My heart goes out to you. The "system" we have for mental health and disability is abysmal. I am fortunate to be supported by my spouse. Accepting being disabled has been tough. There are income thresholds for SSDI, that are based on household income. So you might not qualify if you are married.

That said, the economic consequences of these disabling conditions are horrible and particularly shocking if you are from a privileged background. I'd say the system is heartless.

I'm facing an insurance dispute that involves a violation of the federal mental health parity law. I have been discriminated against because I am disabled.

If this were diabetes, there'd be advertising with smiling people who need chronic care and equipment to measure blood sugar. And there'd be charity walks with balloons and tee shirts.

Hang in there.