I was going to say similar to Divine. Instead of feeling devastated about being betrayed, you should feel proud of yourself for being strong enough & WISE enough to ditch the friendship even if he were to come back & apologize. Be thankful that you had a situation to grow & LEARN from that nothing serious happened to you (which was a miracle in itself). All things to be thankful for rather than devastated by.

The sad thing is however that if your marriage was more of a partnership like marriages normally are supposed to be you wouldn't have ended up in a situation like this in the first place.

You are in the process of learning things the hard way about how important it is to depend on yourself to make wise decisions for your own life. You have depended on your husband for everything & you depended on your friend not to put you in a bad situation. You are learning that neither of these choices have been good for your life. Maybe all these situations are indicators to you that it might be a good time to become more independent & self-sufficient in the choices you make for your own life. It's never too late & even though there is anxiety involved, there comes with it a feeling of pride of being able to make your own wise choices for your life rather than being dependent on others for most things in one's life