I know people who have gotten to know each other online, it has progressed to romantic interest and has been wildly successful - so I'm not in that camp that thinks that you shouldn't even consider such things until you've met in real life.
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Originally Posted by Artchic528
However, the guy, who plays Magic the Gathering (a card based roleplaying strategy game), threw it out there that there was a tournament in my city he was already thinking of going to. I have told him several times that I'm single, and he's said that he's single and hinted that he is into my type (an older woman with long hair). He's 24 and I'm 32, so he's a good 8-9 years younger than me.
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That said, I'm not sure I've seen a successful relationship born from this kind of superficial dynamic. i.e. His type is an older woman with long hair. At twenty-four years old, there are about two billion women in the world that are his type. With so many woman to choose from, it certainly would be more convenient to find one closer to home. And frankly, his description of 'type' sound more like hook-up qualities rather than relationship qualities. For instance, my type is my wife. The qualities that made her my type were her kindness and compassion, her love of animals and children - things like this.
I'm not trying to dissuade you in the event that you are looking for something casual but I'd hate to see you get your hopes up for something more serious when he's giving signs he's not.
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Originally Posted by Artchic528
I just don't know what to make of it. Is he being serious? Or just having a flirtatiously good time? We both have had bad experiences with the opposite sex before, and I have openly asked him if he'll date me for real. His response is that the distance between us, seeing as he lives nearly 8 hours away from me, is a huge factor, and he needs to get to know me better, as he doesn't know much about me. He finally said he'd think about it.
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I don't know what to make of it either based on the information you've been able to provide. It may be that there's a definite answer in there but you missed a key detail - or it might be that know one could know at this point. To be honest, I'm not as put off as others here have been with this response though. Eight hours away is a big number - and while I would have done it for the right person, there would be a lot of 'maybe the right persons' that I'd have passed on because it's just too much effort for a long shot. Meet up if he comes to town and that answer will probably be answered.
Good luck.