My daughter is grown up.....29 years old now & moved to Colorado several years ago. Unfortunately, she purchased a house with her boyfriend & he dumped her just a few months ago. She couldn't make the house payments, so had to move out.....he was being a complete jerk. They have to sell the house & being that is was so new, it hasn't appreciated much. I am so sad that she got involved with such a mean person. Our relationship for all the years of her growing up wasn't a good example of what a relationship should be, so she didn't learn anything from us.....however she should have learned what a relationship SHOULDN'T be like.

I think she will be glad to visit, but I don't think she would ever move there. I think he want's to stay in the relationship because he is only comfortable in ruts....& this one he has dug long & deep. I think is it so sad that he isn't willing to make the needed changes.....or at least show me that is he has the concepts needed to make the changes (even then he needs to be on his own for awhile to get his act together). He keeps excusing everything away on the ADD Dx that they finally came up with. I can handle that too.....but the problem is that even with ADD or any other disability, one has to adapt to their surroundings & he has had a lifetime of my pointing out these problems that have been ignored.....that is why I just refuse to take is anymore.

Thank you for the support....I really appreciate knowing that others think my desicion is the correct one.

Debbie