I doubt the judgement is solely based on choice of men here.


Many people have said to reflect and get help or work on self-esteem.


What I'm reading that could come across as judgmental is people genuinely being upset at the statement you made about being the victim in these situations, when the wife is actually the one being harmed.


I personally don't even see it as judgmental, rather members pointing out your flawed thinking pattern and or complete disregard for the wife.


I don't see myself ever knowingly getting involved with a married man, but if I ever did, God knows I would feel absolutely terrible for his wife.


I certainly would not assume the role of victim if I knowingly put myself in that situation.


*Just food for thought, I'm not attacking or judging.