Sex is not just a recreational thing because whether we like it or not, unless we are completely unfeeling people, the hormones that are created during sex, bond us to the other person we are having it with. That's WHY SEX has it's true meaning within the marriage bonds & not as JUST a recreational activity.

Too intimate & shy, when the right person comes along that you truly LOVE & it's an expression of love for & with that person then that aspect goes away. it takes on it's REAL meaning & becomes a likeable thing.

Though there can be physical reasons why it does not feel comfortable, stressing adds to that discomfort also. But it's like that for most in the beginning so unless there is something physically wrong with you in that area, what you experience is normal. Good reason not to bother until you are with the right person in the right circumstance.