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Old Apr 21, 2016, 01:49 PM
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Hello ForevahAlone: The obvious answer here would, the Skeezyks presumes, be to talk this through with a therapist... a close friend, family member, etc. I presume you already are aware of that. The problem is that if these thoughts just keep rattling around in your brain, it becomes a vicious circle. The more you dwell on it the worse it becomes. You need to talk it out with someone so that you can gradually let it go. This may take more than one talk session too. This is why doing so with a mental health professional may be preferable to talking with a friend or relative. They're not likely to have the skills or the patience to help you through this.

Beyond that, I think the other alternative is to simply allow these thoughts to come up. "Lean into them", breathe with them, even smile to them & allow them to dissipate at their own pace. They are like little trolls who pop up to needle you. But they have no power over you beyond what you cede them. Trying to block them, or stuff them back down, will only keep them coming back stronger & more frequently. At least this is my perspective... I wish you well...
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Thanks for this!
eskielover, ForevahAlone, Jan1212