I think all sides are hurt when this kind of things happen. I don't think the OP posted here because she is sad about the wives. It's not correct, but if the husbands didn't find her, they will find another one. In my opinion the husbands take most of the responsibility by cheating on their wives, and thus the wives have the right to leave their husbands if they know and choose to, because they aren't good and loyal for them. People when desperate and alone can do anything.