As long as you feel incapable of standing up for yourself around guys who aren't your friends in the first place as its obvious they have no respect for you. The word NO is great because it sorts out the guys who respect you & gets rid of those who don't & only want you for the sex they can get. Sounds like you have had some sexual abuse in your past making NO harder to say...but not impossible to learn to stand up for yourself & your values. Maybe you haven't determined your sound values or boundaries either. Might be something to work on in therapy if you do have a T.

I spent my life having guy friends, but I had my valued & boundaries that I wouldn't give on & they respected that & those that didn't...I had nothing to do with. Their loss, my gain because I also respected myself.

I still hold with my values after I left a long bad marriage. I don't need sex with guys to give me value in life & I know guys like that AREN'T real friends they are only their for their own SELFISH needs.

Stop hanging around guys until you gain enough self-esteem & courage to say no. Choose guys more WISELY in the first place & you won't be encountering guys like this in the first place.

I could never relate to women as I was more career oriented so it was easier being friends with guys & with cast in concrete boundaries I didn't have a problem