Therapists have this saying, "You have to break down to break through," and that's probably true, but I think you have to be ready first. It also shouldn't be forced. I broke down a couple of months ago, and it was awful and everything was pain and despair, but I had a massive breakthrough as a result of it.

My breakdown happened because I was exposed to something that terrified me; my therapist at university said "I love you" and I just didn't know how to respond to it. I tried to get away from it, because it felt like everything was falling apart around me and inside of me and I couldn't make sense of it. Fortunately, my therapist wouldn't let me, and instead we worked through it. I learned a lot about myself. But like I said, I think it is a thing you have to be ready for, and when/if it happens, it happens. If you need to take it slow, tell her that. She'll understand.

Good luck!