You "are" being tough and finding solutions on your own though (( Lazarus )). The "strength" is not in hiding and burying your challenges, instead it is being brave and finding your way to make a plan for "resolve". That is why you are feeling a sense of "relief", that is letting you know you are doing the right thing and it's beginning to empower you. You are doing something, you are taking action to improve yourself and "that" is where the true bravery comes into play, and finally tackling the tiger and in so doing "growing".