I need some advice on sex and relaxation. I still have sexual trauma issues when I was in therapy a few months ago we were working on childhood abuse issues using EMDR which I didn't finish as the 2nd therapist left and the 3rd therapist we were in the getting to know each other stage then once I had my insurance taken care of she moved to another dept not doing therapy anymore no one told me that she called me to let me know after i left her a message.

I haven't been back to the clinic don't feel like doing another inventory then waiting for a therapist i hate the state insurance. I still have sexual pain when i am intimate not as bad like before as I was doing an exercise. I try deep breathing and relaxing only works short term then when a guy touches/penetrates my bits my legs claim up since it knows a man (actually past men) violated me.

I was told that I need to welcome the pleasure not the pain when having sex/being intimate. I do agree just so tired of being controlled by the past I do visualization of whoever I am ****ing or someone else giving me pleasure to help then the pain kicks in again. I don't know when I will see a therapist now is not the right time.

I am a 30 yr old single female I started getting intimate with someone 2 weeks ago. I want my legs to stop closing up when someone touches me I want to enjoy sex I do have a high sex drive when I allow it to happen. I just don't know how to let go of what happened to me in my teen years.

Does any woman here have any tips they have done to overcome sexual issues on their own? I feel like I have to do this on my own since I have no idea when I will see a therapist right now I am working on work issues and now personal issues.