Hello Friends,

I'm writing in hopes that I can get some stuff off my chest tonight. And in response to my previous thread over a month ago in March when I began seeing a co-worker.

Well... we went on three really great dates around the time I posted that thread then all of a sudden things changed and I got this feeling that he lost interest in me. I stopped asking him to do things (although I really wanted his time) and I never saw him outside of work and stopped texting him because I knew that he wouldn't ever respond. Fast forward to this week when I finally confronted him and told him how I felt. All this time, he acted like nothing was wrong and I will admit that I did too (partly because I didn't want to cause a scene at work and didn't want to seem 'crazy'). Inside, my gut was telling me loud and clear that it's not going to work between us. I even cried a couple times.

When I told him how I felt, he told him I was pressuring him. But really, I just wanted answers why he was just acting like everything was OK. He even mentioned that he knew it was going to turn out this way two months ago. We talked about it some more and he said he is just afraid of commitment, he can't give me a straight answer and that it's him, not me (whatever).

Boy, do I feel stupid. Long story short, I just told him I wanted to remain friends because I don't hate him. I just feel hurt and incredibly, incredibly dumb for crossing the line.

It's going to be a tough road for however long we work together (which probably won't be much longer). So .. in short, I think I am the problem here. I get curious, I wonder, I wonder why he doesn't call or why the guy never texts. I wonder if I'm the reason for things ending the way they do. Why do guys do this to me and why do I let them? This happened with another guy just about six months ago. I thought I learned my lesson but I always end up getting hurt.

Anyway, for those of you who gave your opinion before, thank you. For those of you who are thinking 'I told you so', I already know. It sucks. Big time.