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Originally Posted by justdesserts
Couchies--I need a friend. I have a very hard week, but tonight was really difficult. My son plays basketball for a high school team, and they play as a club in spring/summer/fall, when HS basketball isn't in season. I go to all his games, and literally all the other parents are friends. They sit by each other, talk to each other, and whenever I try to talk to them, I get the cold shoulder. I know I don't dress as fashionably or have as much money, but I swear I'm nice. I feel like I'm reliving the rejection of High School all over again 40.  How do you find ways to fit in or make new friends when you're old, shy and have been burned? |
I go through this too. The tiny town where I live is very cliquey and the queen bee of the clique and I don't particularly like one another, so I don't get invited to any of their many, many clique events. It's all clique members on my street too and the only thing that bothers me these days is when they have a barbecue or something and my kids are the only kids not invited (because of the parents not the kids who are friends with my kids).
I have accepted that I am not like those women and not being invited to adult events doesn't bother me anymore. I have actively sought groups and events that interest me, like a writing group and I have started studying part time too and I've met good people through both those things so I don't feel like I need the clique. I know it's hard though, and replays feelings from teenage years especially.
