Let's get the dove! Thanks for this awesome thread. In an ironic way, the personal memorial service sounds better, and if I've read this correctly, there's still a way of contacting her if you could help from someone who can pass your message along, a written note or something on a special stationary.

After reading the post #5, I wish that you could still correspond with her in some ways. Why shouldn't you be allowed to? Sorry for the situation, and good luck for the planning.

(I'm thinking of a messenger service, with confirmation that she get your message. The few month's time may not come in few months, please take care of your grieving process as best as you could.)