He takes care of the kids while I am at work. I did tell him that our eldest is of age to watch his brother for at least a few hours. The problem is me. I enable. I'd rather not fight so I try to do it all. I should say he does some good things. Mom is.. well.. she is interesting. She's a hypochondriac. Always complaining of these 4 heart attacks that never happened. And while I escape to work he has to put up with her forever complaining about everyone else. My solution was get a third shift job so he can sleep. But I will discuss my concearns with him. Maybe it is ultimatum time.