I agree you might wanna try to be more independent (at least mentally and emotionally).

Nobody really, truly, fully understands another person. It's the beauty of life, actually: we can to explain and each time we fail somewhat and succeed somewhat we learn. We might know ourselves better than most others, we still have a lot to learn. It's not as if we can fully rationalise BP ourselves, or we would probably be able to explain to others better.

I don't feel lonely because people don't understand me, as long as they try, I only feel lonely if people ignore me because they don't understand. But even then, I don't blame them. Could be worse still.

There must be people that want to understand you. Someone you spend lots of time with might not be willing to try that all the time, being perceived as something that spoils other things maybe, like something menacing, but maybe reserve some time for it and prepare for it, and shut up about it afterwards (excuse my bluntness, but just to make light of it just a little bit (more). I know it isn't, but it maybe helps to see it as something less isolating, taxing, daunting, challenging, difficult). Might work.