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Originally Posted by RomanSunburn
The thing that bothers me the most is how much danger he put you in. And honestly, I'm a little surprised his girlfriend let him do that to you.
I'm glad that you have this person out of your life, and your plans for the future sound like good ideas. I hope you start feeling better soon. I know that's not easy especially since you're grieving the loss of a 6 year friendship. But you know that you're better off without him.  |
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I know! He finally emailed me back. He didn't even mention that he's glad to hear that I made it home safely. Nothing was mentioned about that guy that stood by my car with the gas cannister! He only told me to grow up since the area is safe, and that I'm not an infant. WTH?
He then had the nerve to tell me that nothing was his fault at all, that he tried to set me straight, whatever, and that I supposedly was ordering the most expensive drinks on the menu on purpose. Well, if that was an issue, then he should've said something. I would've been OK paying for my own drinks!
And then he told me that the reason that I had issues with former friends and family is that I'm the problem. He knows what happened with them, but he made it sound like he finally understood why I had problems with them. He acts like I'm the one with the issue, and that's why I got treated badly by others in the past. Not everything is my fault. Sure, I said and did things that I shouldn't have, but that doesn't warrant most of the horrible verbal and mental abuse that I was put through.
It hurts that he would say those things and think of me of being that way, mentally unstable he said many times. He said that he's not sure if it was a combo of the booze, my period, or if I'm truly bipolar (I'm not, but I do suffer from depression and anxiety), or if I'm truly that screwed up in the head.
Obviously it was not a good idea to expose this secret to him. Most people are to quick to dismiss, ridicule, disrespect, and hurt people with mental issues. I guess that we don't deserve to be treated the same way as "normal" people to them. So from now on, I will tell NO ONE about my issues! I don't appreciate having my sanity questioned. He didn't apologize for one single thing at all. I'm better off w/o him in a way.
He was stressed out and lashing out at me. I don't need that kind of stress in my life. He was never this way to me before. I can forgive some things, but the fact that he didn't even care to check on me to see if I'm OK or apologize for pushing my buttons, not respecting my boundaries with his relentless attempts to get me to tell his g.f my secret, and the fact that he saw nothing wrong with that crazy woman rubbing up on me are all red flags. He even told me to take it as a compliment! WTH? Ugh! He's the crazy one, not me, lol!