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Originally Posted by eskielover
I was going to say similar to Divine. Instead of feeling devastated about being betrayed, you should feel proud of yourself for being strong enough & WISE enough to ditch the friendship even if he were to come back & apologize. Be thankful that you had a situation to grow & LEARN from that nothing serious happened to you (which was a miracle in itself). All things to be thankful for rather than devastated by.
The sad thing is however that if your marriage was more of a partnership like marriages normally are supposed to be you wouldn't have ended up in a situation like this in the first place.
You are in the process of learning things the hard way about how important it is to depend on yourself to make wise decisions for your own life. You have depended on your husband for everything & you depended on your friend not to put you in a bad situation. You are learning that neither of these choices have been good for your life. Maybe all these situations are indicators to you that it might be a good time to become more independent & self-sufficient in the choices you make for your own life. It's never too late & even though there is anxiety involved, there comes with it a feeling of pride of being able to make your own wise choices for your life rather than being dependent on others for most things in one's life
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Thanks. I get what you're saying, but the feeling of betrayal hurts like hell. He had no concern for my safety and told me that they made the right choice by walking away from an angry drunk. I was annoyed, not angry. He kept on pushing me to reveal stuff that I didn't want to reveal. How could anyone not get a bit upset at that?
And then he said nothing about how he's glad that I made it home OK. He told me that it's a safe area, and that I'm a grown woman, and not an infant. And that I need to grow up. Really? So I guess I shouldn't have been scared of that guy holding the gas cannister late at night? OMG, and then HE told me that I was delusional? Wow, he is the one with the issue here!
He complained about how I was high maintenance and accused me of choosing the most expensive drinks. Like I said before, if he had an issue with that, then he should've said something. I should've paid for my own drinks since he isn't working.
I think that he's a bit jealous of me since he was always telling me that I'm lucky that I have a husband who takes care of me, etc....And you're right about what you said, I shouldn't depend on others so much. We all need people, that's for sure, but I should start doing more for myself. And I won't go out drinking with anyone again unless it's someone I trust 100%.
It's better to stay away from bars and drinking in public as I have attracted the wrong attention a few times at some places. There will always be sleazy people at most of these places looking for prey, so it's best to stay away from those places as some people tend to act crazy when they drink. I won't even drink that much at home anymore. It's bad for my health and my weight.
He didn't mean to hurt me with his email, but he dd. He apparently thinks that all the problems that I've had with former friends, family, and my husband are because I'm the one with the issue. He's never been like this with me before. I'll never tell anyone about my issues again as it seems like whenever I do, it eventually gets used against me. Apparently he thinks that I have issues. I do, but so does he. I didn't judge him for that. It seems like those of us who have mental issues don't deserve to be treated with respect by people who are supposedly "normal" for lack of a better word, ugh. This will make it so much harder for me to trust anyone again.