I'm sorry for my grammar. My definition of a "partner" is equivalent to the person or object you're engaging sex with. I'm suggesting a conversation with whoever that is. Unless this is just casual sex.

Tantric sex is a lot more than loving yourself.

And I only suggested an OB Bec you were having pain issues. I really don't know one female that likes getting their cervix scraped!

Honestly you're coming off as very angry & frustrated. I'm sorry about that. I didn't mean to upset you.
Hope someone else can help you.