Hi Lady revan -- And Skeezyks, & placebo effect:

I muchly relate to what you're all saying. LR, I have always been very aware of my words (well, since adulthood set in in a majot way, amyway!) simply because:
- So Many People Are NOT careful of their words, tones of voice, body language, and other actions. All of these have real effects on the hearers/readers !!
- The Mother who raised me was very much the way you, Skeezyks, describe yours. A bit old-world-ish about it tbh, but it truly has served me well over the years. Wish I could thank her now. Cause, as an Aspie-lite(ish), it's helped me w/interpretation of others' interpersonal intent.
I'm still not all that great at the interpretation, mind -- but I am WAY aware that what I say & do can have a thunderous impact on other folk, all unawares tho I may be at that moment , aw crap...!

Hence a lil caution, and I don't think that's a bad thing, not at all, at all. It just signifies that we realize that complete comprehension/communicatuion is not something one can take for granted; in fact it's far more normal fo folk to get things at least a bit tilted. But I reckon that's all right if one extends a lil bit of generousity towards one's conversational partner(s).

Very few people acctually set out to be offensive, punitive, antagonistice, or unsympathtic jerks. lol

Those that do ..... Well....

On their own pointy lil heads be it bc eventually folk will get sick of their act. heh

Stiking a balance between and all the time is the goal, yeah?

JMO, guys.
xo
Chyia, ~le sigh~