I am in a similar situation. You can read about my story here:
http://forums.psychcentral.com/relat...n-romance.html

I think your OP is confusing. You don't think it is important if someone is a virgin or not, but it is in the title.

You have female friends only, but nothing happens.

What is going 'wrong'?

For myself, I have strong schizoid tendencies and possibly give people strange/bad vibes unintentionally.
I am very masculine, in a way, though others may not agree.

My mind is not wired for the human mating ritual. I am too stubborn to engage in it and too schizoid to be interested in it, unless I fall in love, which rarely happens but has the more impact.

My rational side blocks out my emotional size. I despise myself for only liking very attractive females. If I don't find a female attractive, everything she says and does is less fun, smart, witty, interesting. And I hate that. It is not fair.

I think most people have no clue about what they are attracted to and why they are. They just have this instinct that they follow.

Becoming friends first, then lovers, can happen. But think about what is the romantic fantasy of the average female. That is what she really wants. Whether she knows it or is willing to accept it.

The world of romance is the most cutthroat toughest competitive arena of all human endeavors. But in theory it is easy.
You have to be perceived as a high value person in the eyes of the woman you are interested in. Then, you have to offer her the romantic fantasy she wants to experience.

As a man, if you can't be masculine, your value goes down by a lot. If you can't make decisions, she won't like you. If she tests your strength and you just cave in, she dominates your personality, you are perceived as weak. Her instincts tell her she should avoid a weak male at all cost.