Motherme?

Mothers and fathers get blamed for ruining their children's live all the time. They are easy scapegoats. It seems to me your daughter used you as the source of all her problems as it was easier for her to not take resposibility for her OWN life.

That being said....it doesn't make her actions any less traumatic for you.

Hang in Mom. YOU do not need to make the first move. Your daughter must do it herself. Until such a time comes.....please try to stop beating yourself up. Easier said than done, I know, but try.

xoxBun