Don't care about that! Learn to live for yourself more and people you love, your children, your husband. Don't listen to what people say out of frustration, if you do that: most of it is rubbish.

If you are that very tired, maybe tell your husband to support you and do more if he can. Don't feel guilty for taking some rest, to be depressed, give in somewhat more. It will lift, sooner if you are gentle with it.



Edit:
And If we are depressed, we are always ugly, to ourselves, we may convince others even, I'm sure: definitely in my case. That subliminal appearance, very good when manic, very bad when depressed is what matters and the appearance to keep up. Nothing else. Be yourself.