I may change my mind - I should say I may realize what I said was wrong - , or I may regret what I said on the forum. But here it is.
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Originally Posted by Talthybius
Humans are animals. We have instincts wired through evolution to reproduce. There is this idea going around that in human evolutionary history, only a small number of males reproduced. It is a question about if a female would rather share a high value male with other females, or have a lower value male of her own. Hard to test such a hypothesis.
And this is wired into her brain.
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I thought humans can have delusions. Are instincts always superior?
I don't know what I'm missing, I'm inexperienced.
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Originally Posted by Talthybius
They just have this instinct that they follow.
... You have to be perceived as a high value person in the eyes of the woman you are interested in.
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Having someone who has been driven only by instincts is not romantic in any way.
I'm usually looking for someone who has a slight idea about what she is after.
That doesn't prevent me to meet her, whoever she is. But I'm not available for a short relationship. All my friends had already a boyfriend, even if I know about that or not.
I don't buy tickets to roller coaster.
I think, people don't deserve to be alone.
I'm attracted to less prettier women, that's why I never felt an urge to be superior to someone else.
Sometimes it is necessary to don't think about love, to improve yourself, your career, but still, every moment I live alone means there is someone who will be snatched away from me, before I can meet her.
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Originally Posted by Talthybius
And as the female takes much more risk in getting pregnant than the male, the male can just walk away and find some other female, the female has to be much much more critical about who she gets romantically engaged with.
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What about millennials who don't want kids? Are they on the wrong path, and I am only following those, because it is more convenient this way?
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Originally Posted by Talthybius
Think about it in terms of being successful and exciting vs being a failure and boring. And yes, for the most part that means being a male that is confident and has strong social skills.
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Being imperfect. I had to visit speech therapist for three years, because I can not pronounce certain consonants. She gave up, saying I won't improve.
I regularly talk with foreign people online, compared to some of them I have a huge phonetic inventory. There are languages I have less problem with the phonetics. Having or not having strong social skills, depends on language, maybe on your parents' social skills, and on your friends' social skills.
I have always thought strong social skills are one of the necessary skills in the moderns society, one more excuse for something as knows as social exclusion. I don't want to continue on this last sentence, because I think it is against the Terms of Use.
This is one more sign, that I haven't tried to connect dots, maybe I lack common sense.
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Originally Posted by Wandering Soul
Good step. Hopefully you will find some helpful advice here. That's all I can say.
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And then put it into practice.