Suppose you're dating a guy who has a history of abuse, but in the past two years he's had some really good therapy. He is respectful and thoughful of you and you are able to be vulnerable with him and he won't hurt you psychologically.

But the history of his uncontrolled temper niggles at me.

I know he's been to therapy and still is going, and we get along just great, yet I fear terribly that temper of his. I've never seen it yet, but because he used to have it, I fear it will return. I know he has learned how to deal with it and it has been controlled for a long time...Still, I would hate to be in a second marriage and his temper comes back....

Difficult decisions to make. sigh.