I share with you Brene Brown:

This is her first Ted talk. She's done alot of work researching shame. I find her work helpful. I recommend watching her other videos or her books.

One of the most important things I have learned dealing with my own shame is that finding the right person to bring your shame out into the light of day with is essential to dissipating it. Shame can not live in the light of Empathy. It takes alot of trust and vulnerability to get to that point, but it is well worth the work.