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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
I've had issues with others in the past to where I let my insecurities and doubts get the best of me, so I kind of ruined a few friendships in the past. I'd do stupid stuff like get upset with them for not calling me after awhile, ugh.
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Heh, I did that as well. I would try very hard not to take it personally because let's be honest, most of that kind of stuff is not personal. People are generally self-absorbed, and aren't thinking, "Oh, I'm just not going to call Ruari. She's the
worst. I'll talk to and be nice to her if she calls me but otherwise, meh!" And I don't mean that people are self-absorbed in a negative way, but really, we are first and foremost concerned with ourselves, and we should be! When it's healthy, and we're promoting positive self-care, it's a good thing...we can't adequately care for others unless we've adequately cared for ourselves. But anyway, I would try not to take it personally, and I would to alright with the self-talk for a while. And then something would come crashing down off the shelf in my life, and I'd be like, "Where
is everyone? Why doesn't anyone ever call, or ask me to hang out?" And then I'd get all pissed, get out the proverbial ax, and start hacking people out of my life. It's done from a place of hurt, but mostly because I needed something I wasn't receiving. Maybe I should have just asked for it, you know?