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Old Apr 24, 2016, 06:06 PM
Anonymous37893
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Originally Posted by Ruari View Post
Heh, I did that as well. I would try very hard not to take it personally because let's be honest, most of that kind of stuff is not personal. People are generally self-absorbed, and aren't thinking, "Oh, I'm just not going to call Ruari. She's the worst. I'll talk to and be nice to her if she calls me but otherwise, meh!" And I don't mean that people are self-absorbed in a negative way, but really, we are first and foremost concerned with ourselves, and we should be! When it's healthy, and we're promoting positive self-care, it's a good thing...we can't adequately care for others unless we've adequately cared for ourselves. But anyway, I would try not to take it personally, and I would to alright with the self-talk for a while. And then something would come crashing down off the shelf in my life, and I'd be like, "Where is everyone? Why doesn't anyone ever call, or ask me to hang out?" And then I'd get all pissed, get out the proverbial ax, and start hacking people out of my life. It's done from a place of hurt, but mostly because I needed something I wasn't receiving. Maybe I should have just asked for it, you know?
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I used to be more like that! I start to worry that my friends don't like me anymore if I don't hear from them for awhile. I still get anxious like that. I have at least managed to not get upset with people for not getting back to me right away, finally! You're right about what you said, a lot of people are self absorbed at times. And a lot of people tend to live busy lives as well.

You sound like you have a lot of self awareness according to your previous responses. It sounds like you're trying to work on your issues. I've lost what could've been good life long friends by acting to rashly in the past. I won't make that mistake again.