I've been there for 3 years. I think at 5 years I will have to taper off and move on. Why? I've just left an abusive marriage. I've been told I need a year to heal, and a year to work out what I want to do. That was from DV counselling, not T. So it makes sense that I want to keep everything else the same while I'm going through this upheaval.
It's okay to keep throwing the pieces in the air and see where they fall.