Thank you everyone for your opinions. They are much appreciated.
If you've noticed in another thread I started, this DD has now turned to explore cutting.
Another issue that hits very close to home for me. So yes, I'm taking everything very seriously & ive seen her T alone so I can look at my parenting skills & how I can help her better.

I gEt consumed in my own MH issues that no one knows about & I get lost in them. I wonder if she's trying to reach out to me for help & im not doing my job of picking up on everything.
I know I'm not.
It's very hard to switch gear out of myself & focus on her. I know that sounds very selfish & not ideal parenting.
My husband & I are trying to keep on top of this now w/her therapist.