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Originally Posted by Mr. Bun
Motherme?
Mothers and fathers get blamed for ruining their children's live all the time. They are easy scapegoats. It seems to me your daughter used you as the source of all her problems as it was easier for her to not take resposibility for her OWN life.
That being said....it doesn't make her actions any less traumatic for you.
Hang in Mom. YOU do not need to make the first move. Your daughter must do it herself. Until such a time comes.....please try to stop beating yourself up. Easier said than done, I know, but try.
xoxBun
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Thank you Mr. Bun for your input and also your insight. In the last day or so it is as though a light bulb came on. I think taking this out of my head and putting it on the table on this forum as I had said earlier in one of my post that I so much needed (being a very private person I had been internalizing it by myself) gave me enough room in there to go back to my roots. I have always lived by "God grant me the serenity to change what I can, accept what I can't and the wisdom to know the difference". I like to think that I do not hide behind this but use it to the best of my ability to face truths and use those truths to have the wisdom to know the difference. I allowed my hurt and anger to control my thoughts and keep me stuck. All of you that posted gave me what was needed to see that "lightbulb" Thank you thank you thank you all.
Many hugs !!!