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Originally Posted by Pfrog
Shame is what makes child abuse so horrific. The parent or other supposed trusted adult caretaker predates upon the innocent child then has that child convinced that they're to blame for what's happened to them ... As the abuses continue to compound day after day, that misplaced blame becomes toxic shame that leaves the adult survivor wrestling with years of heartache & grief to unravel ... It often takes years, if ever, for that adult to get to the point that they can even begin to trust another human being enough to allow themselves the vulnerability necessary to start peeling back the layers of shame they're buried under.
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If that's true, and I'm not going to debate that here, then can you see how horrific it would be if/when clients place their trust in therapists and then are disappointed and re-traumatized over and over? II trust that my current T understands some things about dissociation in a theoretical or intellectual way. I trust that she will be in her office at my appointment time unless she notifies me otherwise. I do not trust that she cares about me in any personal way and in fact I don't believe that she does. She doesn't understand me and has shamed me on more than several occasions. It has taken awhile but in recent months I have called her on it. Time will tell if we can come to some better mutual understanding.
I wonder, though, if maybe I just need something else, but I haven't a clue what it might be. I've certainly tried spiritual appoaches, too. Still do.