As Marilyn Monroe once said, "If you can't handle me at my worst, you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."

I'm sorry your husband is flaking out on you. You don't need this. But he doesn't seem to be terribly reliable anyway and has been cruel to you in the past, so you may be better off in the long run. In the short term, however, just know that you have plenty of support here no matter how things go down. Thinking of you. (((HUGS)))